The Gottman Method for Couples Therapy is based on Dr. John Gottman's research that began in the 1970's and continues to this day. The research has focuson on what makes the relationship succeed or fail. From this research, Drs. John and Julie Gottman have created a method of therapy that emphasises a "nuts-and-bolts" approach to improving clients' relationshipsl.
This method is designed to help teach specific tools to deepen friendship and intimacy in your relationship. To help you productively manage conflicts, you will be given methods to manage "resolvable problems" and dialogue about "gridlocks" (or perpetual issues). We will also work toegether to help you appreciate your relasthipins' strenghts an to gently navigate through its vulnerabilities.
Gottman Method Couples Therapy consists of five parts:
Early in the assessment phase, you will be given some written materials to complete that will help us better understand your relationship or alternatively you can complete the questionnarie online (for an additional fee) which brings the results faster and diretly to your email. In the first session we will talk about the history of your relationship, areas of concern, and goals for treatement.
In the next session, I will meet with you individually to learn each of your personal histories and to give each of you an opportunity to share thoughts, feelings, and perceptions. In the final session of assessment, I will share with you my recommendations for treament and work to define mutually agreen upon goals for your therapy.
Most of the work will involve where you will be seen toegher as a couple. However, there may te times when individal sessions are recommended. I may also give you exercises to practice between sessions. Sometimes, I may refer you to a male practitioner to support you with the matters I have no or less experience with, if we mutually agreed that is may be beneficial for the relationship.
The length of therapy will be determined by your specific needs and goals. In the course of therapy, we will establish points at which to evaluate your satisfacion and progress. Also, I will encourage you to raise any questions or concerns you have about therapy at any time.
In the later stage of therapy, we will "phase out" or meet less frequently in order for you to test out new relationship skills and to prepare for termination of the therapy. Although you may terminate therapy whenever you wish, it is most helpful to have at least one session together to summarise progress, define the work that remains, and say good-bye.
In the outcome-evalution phase, as per the Gottman Method, four follow-up sessions are planned: one after 6 months, one after 12 months, one after 18 months, and one after 2 years. These sessions have been shown through research to significantly decreate the chances of relaps into previous, unhelpful patterns. In addition, committment to providing the best therapy possible requires ongoing evaluation of methods used and client progess. The purspose of these follow-up session then will be fine-tune any of your relationship skills if needed, and to evaluate the effectivens of the therapy received.
Althought the main framework I use is the Gottman therapy, during the treatment phase I may incorporate other approaches for your specific needs and goals:
* the Gottman Therapy (Drs. John & Julie Gottman)
* Imago Therapy (Dr. Harville Hendrix & Dr. Helen LaKelly Hunt)
* Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT, Sue Johnson & Les Greenberg )
* Compassionate Inquiry (Gabor Maté & Sat Dharam Kaur)
* Rewind (Dr. David Muss)
* Hakomi Somatic Psychotherapy (Manuella Mischke-Reed)
* Trauma Psychoeducation (Dr. Janina Fisher)
* Attachment theory
* Diamond Approach (Hameed Almaas & Karen Johnson)
* Circling (witnessing and sharing impact)
* Non-Violent Communication (NVC, Dr. Marshall Rosenberg)
* Resource Therapy (Dr. Gordon Emmerson)
This method is designed to help teach specific tools to deepen friendship and intimacy in your relationship. To help you productively manage conflicts, you will be given methods to manage "resolvable problems" and dialogue about "gridlocks" (or perpetual issues). We will also work toegether to help you appreciate your relasthipins' strenghts an to gently navigate through its vulnerabilities.
Gottman Method Couples Therapy consists of five parts:
- Assessment
- Treatment
- "Phasing Out"
- Termination
- Outcome Evaluation
Early in the assessment phase, you will be given some written materials to complete that will help us better understand your relationship or alternatively you can complete the questionnarie online (for an additional fee) which brings the results faster and diretly to your email. In the first session we will talk about the history of your relationship, areas of concern, and goals for treatement.
In the next session, I will meet with you individually to learn each of your personal histories and to give each of you an opportunity to share thoughts, feelings, and perceptions. In the final session of assessment, I will share with you my recommendations for treament and work to define mutually agreen upon goals for your therapy.
Most of the work will involve where you will be seen toegher as a couple. However, there may te times when individal sessions are recommended. I may also give you exercises to practice between sessions. Sometimes, I may refer you to a male practitioner to support you with the matters I have no or less experience with, if we mutually agreed that is may be beneficial for the relationship.
The length of therapy will be determined by your specific needs and goals. In the course of therapy, we will establish points at which to evaluate your satisfacion and progress. Also, I will encourage you to raise any questions or concerns you have about therapy at any time.
In the later stage of therapy, we will "phase out" or meet less frequently in order for you to test out new relationship skills and to prepare for termination of the therapy. Although you may terminate therapy whenever you wish, it is most helpful to have at least one session together to summarise progress, define the work that remains, and say good-bye.
In the outcome-evalution phase, as per the Gottman Method, four follow-up sessions are planned: one after 6 months, one after 12 months, one after 18 months, and one after 2 years. These sessions have been shown through research to significantly decreate the chances of relaps into previous, unhelpful patterns. In addition, committment to providing the best therapy possible requires ongoing evaluation of methods used and client progess. The purspose of these follow-up session then will be fine-tune any of your relationship skills if needed, and to evaluate the effectivens of the therapy received.
Althought the main framework I use is the Gottman therapy, during the treatment phase I may incorporate other approaches for your specific needs and goals:
* the Gottman Therapy (Drs. John & Julie Gottman)
* Imago Therapy (Dr. Harville Hendrix & Dr. Helen LaKelly Hunt)
* Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT, Sue Johnson & Les Greenberg )
* Compassionate Inquiry (Gabor Maté & Sat Dharam Kaur)
* Rewind (Dr. David Muss)
* Hakomi Somatic Psychotherapy (Manuella Mischke-Reed)
* Trauma Psychoeducation (Dr. Janina Fisher)
* Attachment theory
* Diamond Approach (Hameed Almaas & Karen Johnson)
* Circling (witnessing and sharing impact)
* Non-Violent Communication (NVC, Dr. Marshall Rosenberg)
* Resource Therapy (Dr. Gordon Emmerson)
Assessments and Fees
- Session #1 - Intake Interviews (80-90 minutes) $180
- Session #2 - Individual Interviews (45-50 mins each) $120 each
- Session #3 - Results & Treatment Planning (80-90 minutes) together, $120
- consecutive sessions $120 (45-50 minutes) either as a couple or individual treatments
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Your Therapist: Grace Love
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“taking responsibility—even for a small part of the problem in communication—presents the opportunity for great repair.”
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Drs. John & Julie Gottmanthe Gottman Therapy |
Compassionate InquiryCompassionate inquiry is a therapy approach created by Dr. Gabor Maté and Sat Dharam Kaur that helps clients gain insight into their current behaviors and beliefs. The client is encouraged to bring a specific intention to each session. The client determines how much to engage in the session and may request to stop at any time. The therapist may interrupt the client during the session to bring the client into awareness of the present moment and to body sensations and emotions. |
Gabor Mate & Sat Dharam Kaur (Compassionate Inquiry). Source: https://beyondaddiction.ca
Dr. Gabor Mate & Sat Dharam Kaur (Compassionate Inquiry) |
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“Do you want to be right, or do you want to be in relationship?” Because you can’t always have both. You can’t cuddle up and relax with “being right” after a long day.”
― Harville Hendrix, Making Marriage Simple: Ten Relationship-Saving Truths “If we don't tell our stories to each other, we lose the opportunity to find what binds us together, as human beings and spiritual beings.” ― Helen LaKelly Hunt, Faith and Feminism: A Holy Alliance |
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dr Helen LaKelly Hunt Imago Therapy |
